Matrix is a must-see move for its allegorical take on society today. Most people are just batteries (see the movie – I am not going to explain it here), while some are actively fighting the “agents”. Without a Neo, we are hopelessly outgunned, once the red pill is taken, there comes the self-realization, and desire for freedom and independence.
Once you have decided to go ahead for a divorce you have taken a red pill, unlike a hero in a movie. The only person who will be a savior in your life is you. Every preparation you make for upcoming detachment will be an added shield during a divorce fight.
Massive towers are standing strong only on few pillars, it was their careful engineering, and construction that resulted in a reliable functional building. Unbeknownst to its happy occupant enjoys, and passerby admirer.
Think of a divorce like a control demolition. Such a task require more than just explosive. Divorce is pretty the same, you need more than a lawyer.
I will list thing you need to prepare yourself before you can file for divorce.
If you just got married — and doubt started to occur in your mind. I suggest that opt out. Longer you stay harder it will be, and governmental laws such as they are, you will end up losing more than half of your property. Worst yet, more children you have with unhappy partner worst it is for you as well as for the kids.
You know the anecdotal describing a frog slowly being boiled alive. If relationship turns sour such an early stage. This is why you gotta opt out ASAP. It’s more than a love gone bad, your lifetime saving, 401k, even your IRA. Judges are known to hand over future retirement saving to a “house wife” because she was “holding the fort” and that is why you were able to work etc…
When you take this step there is no turning back, and even if you made a mistake, learn from it and move on. There is no point trying to patch a broken relationship. Divorce is such a painful step that no matter what you do afterward; trust is gone even if your partner tells otherwise. It will never be the same.
The irony is when unmarried unmarried couple have similar problem. They have better chance of fixing than a married couple. It’s because they are not married to the government. Divorce court – aptly called divorce industry. This terrible corporation deliberately turn a simple divorce into a nasty fight thereby running unhappy couple
Following method are through trial and error of my own divorce. Hopefully it will help you make a better decision in a sound rational way. It also makes separation less painful — keep in mind it is a very difficult process, and it will emotionally drain you. I have met men who boosted themselves to be “machos” and “manly men”, once their wives’ lawyer was done with then, they were kissing gay men in every imaginable way possible.
So don’t be a fool!
You need to assess your own situation. This is based on where you live. I always recommend a lawyer; some of these legal services will cost you around $300 to $500. Also if you can spare some money, talk with two lawyers. Check the reviews online of the lawyers, and far from anywhere where your partner live.
Type of questions you need to ask your lawyers are:
- Alimony — is it temporary or lifetime
- Child Support how much
- Property Split
- Pension Split
Let’s say if you live in California and your marriage is close to 9 years + than you don’t wanna wait a year. After 10 years it is lifetime alimony.Unless, you are lucky enough on the receiving end than by I means wait until you get the biggest pay of alimony.
There two sections you need to work on self-improvement and divorce preparation.
||Save money for lawyer and other divorce cost
||DNA test of the Kids,
| Create a Food Diary
||Get a P.O. Box redirected all mail
| Stay focused with to-do lists
||Record her screaming & shouting hopefully with videos.
| Quit a bad habit
||Save three or four months money for rent, and move
| Avoid negative people
||Rent storage: slowly move all the items you need.
| Turnoff TV
||Rent a safety deposit box in Bank, and move all the documents there.
| Write your own blog
||Safe money for vacation
| Let go of the past
||Search for rental apartment, or a room, or even move in with parents
| Do Volunteering
||Work less than 40 hours to reduce alimony and child support payment.
||Never agree to marriage counseling
While doing all of this — make sure that your partner had her monthly period, and use condom, or avoid sex. Less you have sex is better, and there is an honor in your stealth behavior as in you did not use your partner, and you are less emotionally attached & feeling guilty. Remember it is not about displaying chivalry, it is about avoiding upcoming manipulation.