Imagine you are a 16 years old girl in a school, and a popular school jock come to you and demand sex. You say no to him, and he verbally pressure by suggesting that you have a phobia about sex, and fear of penetration. Than he suggest that you go to a psychiatrist for a therapy.
Above scenario is no different then a woman forcing a man into a legally binding relationship.I know I am generalizing here, it is because it is mostly women who force men into a “commitment”. You know “biological clock is ticking”, don’t waste my “valuable time”. Why is it okay for them to have lots of fun in their 20s, and even early 30s, however a guy who was basically a poindexter in his 20s studying in library, saving money in IRA, and 401k. Now that he is ready to have fun – he is told to “commit”, he did commit to success, and he is committing his life to fun, and he is shamed for it.
Most men are quite happy with their ongoing arrangement, sex on request, and time alone whenever they want.
The fact is 50% of the marriages end in divorce. So taking your time before you legally “commit” is a smart choice. Anyway who tells you that you are a “commitment phobic” is a bully.
This is a biggest red flag. Run Run Run!!!!!!!!
Marriage mafia is nothing more but a bully, using psycho babble to manipulate and suppress individual right into a legally binding relationship.
As one of my friend reminded me recently that so called “common sense” is not so common after all. Vast majority of us are little bit lemmings, and we ended up doing thing like the neighbor next to us. This is a an old habit, it part of our tribal mentality when we use to huddle together for protection, hunting together for food etc.
Ask an average person in USA — specially conservatives why is not like like communism, or socialism for us to have free school for kids, and pension for elderly, and even a free sidewalk, or street light at night, fee 911 calls for police, or ambulance? Yet it not okay for us to have government run free health care system?
Well, they will go through various mental gymnastics to give you an explanation, albeit not very convincing one. I am quite sure you have put enough doubt in them.
This is same issue we have with media, and even with medical system. Vast majority of a medical professional are gear toward “pro family mafia”. This means an average single man, and women had to pay tax not only for us services he is using, but also for school, and welfare program gear toward people who are can not even afford to pay for their everyday expense.
Look at the salary of psychiatrist!
Even a decent psychiatrist in his field makes well over 125,000 a years. These doctors know which side of the bread the butter is on and they are not going to the buck the trend, and lose their cushy income for rightness, and morality. That is why thy will not call women bully for forcing their sex partner into a marriage — another word legally binding slavery.
Think about it. A person in a relationship saw few red flag signs, not serious enough to break up, but nonetheless noticeable in way to put relationship in a “probationary period”. Or, it could be that a man just came out of a very bad marriage, and he did not want to entangle into a legal, and financial mess. There could be millions of reason. Yet, theme is always “fear of commitment”.
Commitment to who?
By Forcing hesitant party into a legally binding relationship, it creates an environment where divorce seemly likely choice. It’s not for nothing more then 50% of the marriage ends in divorce. Rather than praising so called “commitment phobic” of being a careful shopping he/she is bully and harass into a messy marriage which will benefit courts, lawyers, and judges. Even banks benefit from divorce, vast majority of the time men ended up in bankruptcy lose their entire saving, and many commit suicide.
So it is left on us to expose the most simple thing to an average Joe.
Not wanting to marry someone — even if you are dating them is not a phobia. It is your choice, and the person who is forcing you into a unwanted relationship is a bully.
The course of action would be to breakup, and move on. Give yourself sometime before you jump into a next relationship.